How to Live After Profound Loss

Grief Support
August 18, 2023

Are we treating grieving people the wrong way?

Are our instincts on how to treat grieving people all wrong?  The article from the Free Press that shares Colin Campbell’s views indicates that maybe, while well-intentioned, we are communicating and connecting with grieving people backward.

Colin Campbell and his wife experienced one the hardest things in life, the loss of both of their children.  The four of them were hit by a drunk and high driver at 90 mph with the parents surviving and both children perishing.  What could be worse?

I encourage you to listen to the Free Press interview and to check out Colin’s new book, Find the Words, to hear a first-hand account of what it’s like to be on the other end, receiving condolences from people who don’t know what to say or do. In short, Colin believes that instead of “I don’t know what to say” or other tried and true condolences we might actually want to do the opposite and ask the bereaved what their lost loved one was like.  Maybe it’s not forgetting that makes the pain or burden less, maybe it’s remembering that helps the bereaved get through the day.

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